I was kindly asked by someone on Google+ to write a blog about one of my posts. It was a post on NLP ‘Eye Patterns’. If you look at the diagram below of the lady with pretty eyes, you’ll see the arrows pointing up left to Vc, up Right to Vr, across left to Ac, across right to Ar, down left to K, down right to Ad and she herself is looking forward defocussing.
When you’re watching someone speaking you can see which part of their brain or mind they are accessing, and here is the key below.
Vc or visual construct, which mean they are constructing or creating a picture.
Vr or visual remembered, which means they are remembering something they have already seen.
Ac or auditory construct, which means they are constructing or creating a sound.
Ar or auditory remembered, which means they are remembering a sound they have already heard.
K or kinaesthetic, which means they are accessing their internal or external feelings.
Ad or audio digital, which means they are talking to themselves, processing or making sense of something.
As with the diagram, many people will defocus their eyes and stare straight ahead to visualise something familiar.
So as you can see, you can tell what someone is doing while talking. In therapy this is very useful as we can see how people create patterns that go round and round and cause problems.
For example, I had a lady come in who was afraid of the dark. Before she entered a dark place I found that she would, create a picture, then create an internal feeling, then say something to herself like “ooh that’s worrying”, have another bad feeling, then finally repeat the process until she was so frightened she could no longer cope.
So we can see the little program of visual construct, kinaesthetic, audio digital, kinaesthetic and repeat. She did this each and every time she was about to enter a dark place.
We added and extra audio digital step, saying something rational and calming to herself, which would give her an escape route from her program. We then changed the picture to something funny, the feelings to calmer ones and tested to see if she came up with the same overwhelming fear, which of course she did not. All within the program she had naturally produced to cause the problem. This was all done by watching her eyes when she was talking me through what she did the seconds before she entered a dark place.
I hope this gives you a little insight and understanding of how we use eye patterns and why.